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Friday, February 03, 2006

AH FINALLY! i been wantin to do a blogpost for ages ...

CRAP! watsup with people nowadays. yeap my grandparents are havin maid troubles. and jus when i thought one set of grandparents were fine with the new maid and new arrangment.POOF, the other set gets fiery . and another Drama starts.
i m shocked seriously.
Seriously, my grandparents are lucky people. F*ckin lucky if i must add for the emphasis.
they have children who will jus drop anythin to run to their aid. my parents, aunts and uncles have sacrificed and done alot for both bunches of grandparents
and SHIT u if u say its duty . cause nowadays many define their duty to their parents as givin a part of their paycheck to their parents' old aged homes.

ANd livin with the old people for a good 7 weeks has been an eye opener.
An eye opener to how appreciative these people are..about how much their children are doin for them and how tolerant they are.
wow.
i doubt many would have the patience to deal with my grandparents the way my aunts, uncles and parents have.
pardon me, i m not sayin my grandparents are unbelivably annoyin ...they are typical old folks... and that itself is such a huge irritance.

Grandparents SET 1:
grandmother is extremely sick..and shes,well like a child...gets diarrheoa...and needs care..she can hardly walk...basically she needs assistance all the time.
so maid is employed to take care of the meals, take care of both of my grandparents .
my aunt is unmarried and she has been supportin them for the past urm, 17 years?
drama starts early in maid's days in the house.. grandfather clearly unpleased with her..says she talks back and al that.
OK.. my father(the peacemaker) well makes peace.
talks to my grandfather rather coz well.. he(my father) is the only one he listens to.
so adjustments made...blah blah..2 years go on..with slight tiffs here and there... grandfather comes over to my place and argues that his pride is lost.. whenever a tiff occurs.
THEN Recently.... he claims that the maid has stolen his things and makes certain accusations
which i m not too sure of.
AND yes. he throws a tantrum and says that he wants to go india.
my grandad is a stroke patient and he does not really get treated well over in india. simply put, they jus want his $$$.
so my father gets called and blah blah negotiations take place.
maid is changed... AND THEN he throws a fit again and claims my aunt is being bad to him.
goddamit , she jus devoted her whole damn life to take care of you guys!
and my grandfather calls my father every OTHER day to book tickets to india..when there is a fight in the house.. there is a call to my fathers hp.

Grandparents SET 2
grandfather is tremendously sick,what with diabetes kidney failure and well, hes an amputee.
has to go dialysis three days a week. we pay 700++ bucks for ambulance eachmonth.
and maid is employed to take care of him and my grandma who has had a leg operation too.
MAID gets shouted at... grandfather calls for maid for every SINGLE THING.
grandmother scolds her..
ya and there havebeen numerous family conferences over the maid...recently, she got accused of showin face,talkin back and pushin my grandfather's wheelchair too hard..big FIGHT. words were exchanged.
and yes finally,she was sent back yesterday. and we got a new maid..no much better.she doesnt speak much tamil and everythin has to be taught to her FROM scratch.
includin usin a telephone.

THE MORAL of the long and draggy and exhausting narrative two articles is NOT abt the maids. i m not gonna talk abt the already talked about treatment to maids, maid abuse or ANYTHIN abt the maids.

I jus want to celebrate my family . My aunts and my uncles who patiently listen to both sides of the story. Yes, and another point to add.. credibility. who are we to believe?
of course ur own folks..but u have to be honest to urself as well.. we pity these people who come all the way to make a living.
What are they(aunts,uncles,parents) to do?
seriously, i have had both parties in both sets of grandparents present their arguments and their case..and i cant take a neutral stand nor can i take sides.
and i really applaud my aunts,uncles and definitely my parents, especially my ever lovin father FOR their tremendous patience and truly doin everythin they possibly can. my father has rushed from tekka all the way to yishun once he jus got a call... and it hasnt happened only once.
these people really deserve to be respected for doin what they do and its clear they dont jus do it coz they are bound by duty.rather its what i call Love.

Meanwhile.. while i praise them, what happens to my grandparents..i dont mean to put them down harshly.. it is the old age process and it is their upbringin of their children in the end which has brought them good.ht
But i thought when u are old, u are supposed to be wise. with age, comes experience.. havent these people seen worst situations? havent these people seen death and arent they supposed to be more appreciative of what they have at this crucial age?

I m disappointed really.

Yet another death at the start of the year. of my classmate's father.
haiks.
sad how people can so easily go.

Ok i m being intruded. i have to end this session.

Shini : 11:58 AM